Child Rearing

 Dr. M. C. Panda Enjoying the kid phase of Senior Citizenship

With his Grand Daughter Snigdha Panigrahi (Sara)

Sara Taking Initial Steps, Tender Care

When we grow up and get a job, first thing we tend to do, is get married. It is so natural. Anything surprising! It is right time to get married. What about children? Did we get any training in child rearing? There is no such school for parents.

Child rearing can be as simple as that allowing the child to grow in the environment he was born. Or he may be put in a most sophisticated school of the world with all the facilities of child psychologist, best teachers and best sports facilities.

Every child is unique in personality, potential and competence. So targets for each child will also be specific to him. Every child needs common and targeted handling to arrive at the best results.

Child needs personal and parental attention of love and affection, but definitely not pampering. He needs supportive environment, but freedom to explore the world. He should be supported only when it is utmost necessary.

He should be motivated to venture new things, take creative steps, guided when required and checked when going astray.

While school offers a place to study curriculum, interpersonal relationship and team sport activities, home compliments it with affection, personal attention and family specific grooming.

Grand parents, in Indian circumstances, offer best friendship to the children. They are usually free and experienced. Indian joint family offered this advantage. But ignorance, pampering, multiple approach confusion between parents and grand parents may sometimes create problems.

In fact target setting approach sometimes creates problems as most of the parents start expecting too much from the children, while the child may be having an entirely different personality. Hence a child psychologist is must for a city, if not school.  aptitude of the child need to be tested whenever it is appropriate.

Child should be allowed to blossom without any specific targets forced on him. But freedom does not mean spoiling  the child. He should be rewarded for learning, creative activities, organised sports and playful activities and promoted for extracurricular activities.

This sometimes becomes too much for the child to handle. Hence one should put that much in mouth what it can comfortably chew.

Residential schools and day schools is another controversy. Both have their merits and demerits. Day schools offer better prospects for educated families who can spare reasonable time for children. Residential schools are better for problem families, uneducated families and parents too busy for their children.

Child is like seed. Its potential ranges from simple grass to mighty trees. A lot depends on luck, child, parents, place and country of origin.

Impractical Bill

 
YOUR COMMENT
Dr. Madan Goyal (India) 21 Jul, 2010 1931hrs IST
Prevention of offences against child in proposed form appears to be an act of blindly following the west. We have very well grown up in the parental loving atmosphere. In India, parents love their children more then required. Punishment and its deterrent fear is one of the forces to teach children value of discipline. Keeping in mind the current corruption levels in police and judiciary along with lack of any parallel state support system, new proposed law is likely to spoil the family atmosphere. Police men will use this law to squeeze out money from BPL families, to land them in further debt. Opposition parties will find a good point to arouse public emotions. Creation of this unnecessary law will further overload the judiciary and delay the justice.
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Comments inTOI inresponse to article

YOUR COMMENT
Dr. Madan Goyal (India) 7 Aug, 2010 0352hrs IST
Child rearing can be as simple as that allowing the child to grow in the environment he was born. Or he may be put in a most sophisticated school of the world with all the facilities of child psychologist, best teachers and best sports facilities. Every child is unique in personality, potential and competence. So targets for each child will also be specific to him. Every child needs common and targeted handling to arrive at the best results. Child needs personal and parental attention of love and affection, but definitely not pampering. He needs supportive environment, but freedom to explore the world. He should be supported only when it is utmost necessary. He should be motivated to venture new things, take creative steps, guided when required and checked when going astray. While school offers a place to study curriculum, interpersonal relationship and team sport activities, home compliments it with affection, personal attention and family specific grooming. Grand parents, in Indian circumstances, offer best friendship to the children. They are experienced. Indian joint family offered this advantage. But ignorance, pampering, multiple approach confusion between parents and grand parents may be problemetic. In fact target setting approach may create problems as most of the parents start expecting too much, while the child may be having an entirely different personality. Hence a child psychologist is quite helpful. Child is the father of the man, after all.
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4 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    It is said,”Child is the father of man”.If as a parent you are successful in child rearing,you can realise the proverb what it means.

  2. 2

    Dr. Madan Goyal said,

    There can’t be a better comment on the article.
    Well said.
    Thanks Dr. panda.

  3. 3

    “Child is the father of man” is courtsy Dr. M C Panda.

  4. 4

    Imagining your pleasure, I feel like quickly getting to becoming Grand Pa.
    Convey my gratitudes to Sara.
    Dr. Madan Goyal


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